We can't decide if we should have a buffet or sit-down meal at our wedding. What are the pros and cons of each?
Many couples wonder if buffet service is less expensive than full-service meals. There is often no difference in cost, because although a buffet requires less staff, the caterer has less control over the size of the portions so they need to prepare a larger quantity of food for a buffet. If there is no difference in cost, we would recommend that you opt for the option that allows your guests the comfort of being waited on. Remember to ask the food service providers what they charge to feed children as well as your other service providers or staff as well.

We really want our two sides of the family to get to know each other better at our wedding. How do we help this happen?
Here's one idea. Instead of one huge cake, opt for smaller or individual cakes, still beautifully adorned, for each table or attendee. These centerpiece cakes are often baked with different fillings and flavors. Some couples stop by each reception table and slice the first piece. Other couples ask their guests to slice and sample different cakes at different tables, using this atmosphere to encourage guests to mix and mingle.

We always see the same favor ideas at weddings we attend. How can we do something different for ours?
Pay it forward. Today many couples forego traditional favors and are opting to make a donation to a favorite charity instead. You can place a handwritten note at each guest's place setting describing the organization, or place one large, framed sign announcing your intentions next to the guest book where everyone is sure to see it. It is a wonderful way to share your special day and show your appreciation to your family and friends for celebrating with you.

We don't want guests to bring their children to our wedding. How do we make this known without sounding rude?
This is always a touchy subject. Never print "no children" or "adults only" on an invitation. The way an invitation is addressed, whether on the outer or inner envelope, indicates exactly who — and by omission, who is not — invited to the wedding. Make sure your wedding party and family members know that there will be no children at the wedding so they can spread the word if necessary. If people ask to bring their children even after receiving their invitation, it's best to be as direct as possible, saying that your wedding plans really do not include children.

Here's also a great link for more tips on wedding etiquette.

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